Listen while resisting the urge to lecture
Young adults need a place to talk, but may not be able to ask for it. They are more likely to open up if they feel they can do so without fear of criticism or judgment. It can be difficult to hear that your son or daughter is suffering without jumping to advice-giving. The important thing to remember is that your child is trying to communicate with you. Avoid ultimatums.
Give space, but make it clear you are there for your child. Avoid asking too many questions, as they will often speak less if they feel pressured. If they feel you are available without prying they are more likely come to you.
Be Gentle and Persistent
Don’t give up. Your child may shut you out at first. It can be difficult for them to speak about the trouble they are having. Emphasize your willingness to listen.
Reassure without minimizing feelings
Validate your child’s emotions even if they seem trivial to you. Communicate that you want to understand how they feel.